Most people are limited by what they will try, not what they can do. This is one of the great ironies of life. We all, for the most part, want to be better, faster, richer, smarter etc. We love the idea of being the “best” – we read about it, we talk about it, if asked we even “fib” about it. Oh yea, I ran a ….time or I shot a great round of golf, or….you name it and we exaggerate the results. The contradiction in terms, the irony, and ultimately the paradox of the situation is that, in reality, we do not get to the level we want to achieve, the level that we want to be known for, and ultimately be recognized for is of our own doing. We stop ourselves from achieving by putting up our own limits - limits that are self-induced, not at all structural. So if indeed the limit to improving our performance is what we will try, then how can we get ourselves to try more? I suggest that there are techniques that help us try more:
- First, go do something with someone better than you. They will force you to do more.
- Second, give yourself a reward if you do “more”;
- Third, when you do more, share your accomplishments with others (you will get a lot of positive reinforcement and it will feel good).
Give it a try – your version of THPL is waiting for you to do so. What’s the worst that could happen? You might just end up where you started or better yet, doing more than you think you can.
Loving life when trying new things