Have you ever tried to tell someone how to do something and you were rejected? Have you ever tried to tell a smart person the best way to solve a problem and they tried something else instead? What is it about being helpful by providing the answer that is so summarily rejected? I am not a social scientist by any stretch of the imagination but I believe it comes from the removal of the creative part of the process – taking it away from the “learner” and giving them in return “rote” work / roles to play. The truth is that they do not want to be told what to do. They want to be independent, they want to create and they want to feel a sense of accomplishment having done the work themselves. For certain, this feeling is held across an array of disciplines, careers and life approaches. And so if our THPL community follows suit we might have an issue because we know it is better to learn from an experienced person and apply what they know to go faster and get there better.
Well, there is one solution – turns out that as much as we dislike it when someone takes away our creativity we very much like it when we are helped to avoid a mistake. In many spaces it is called an Anti-pattern, and I think they are the answer. Why might you ask? Just like in THPL we define a set of principles for how to live, the anti-pattern describes a commonly occurring solution to a problem that generates decidedly negative consequences. The Anti-pattern may be the result of a manager or developer not knowing any better, not having sufficient knowledge or experience in solving a particular type of problem, or having applied a perfectly good solution in the wrong context.
Anti-patterns provide real-world experience in recognizing recurring problems in life and provide a detailed remedy for the most common predicaments. Time for THPL to share anti-patterns with each other.
Loving life, especially when I am avoiding mistakes